Category: Self-Acceptance

Self love may be difficult

Self love is a bit of a misnomer.  Why do you need to love yourself?  Where does the question of self-love originate from? Do you love a sunrise?  You might be in awe.  You might feel connected and lost in some feeling or experience bigger than your mind.  You might even step out of the…


Commitment

I used to think commitments were things I gave to other people so that they could hold me accountable for something. Or sometimes I made a commitment to do something I didn’t want to do because I thought I should — and the commitment would force me to do it. Keeping those commitments made me…


How can we be perfect and have so many shortcomings?

Before I begin, I want to dismiss some semantic arguments about the notion of shortcomings. I am of the opinion that we are indeed perfect. So how is it possible to be both perfect and have shortcomings? Actually, we don’t have shortcomings (as most people define them,) but if I started there, I wouldn’t have…


Need vs. Needy

One can be alone and not experience “lonely.”  The state of ‘alone’ is a factual event; It can be objectively measured.  Lonely is a feeling; one that is generated from beliefs and expectations.  ‘Lonely’ is an internal state that we generate unrelated to the external state.  We can feel lonely even in the middle of a crowd!…


Self-Acceptance

Self-Acceptance is not “love your garbage.” “Self-acceptance” is considered to be one of the most important attitudes you can bring to any personal-development work.  However, “self-acceptance,” as it is used in the generally accepted world view is nothing more than a stop-gap strategy for dealing with our belief that we are, in fact, broken. “Self-acceptance,” as I…