Tag: want

Safe Harbor

I want to discuss a fundamental skill, tool and value in couples relationships. I will call this ‘creating a Safe Harbor.’ Safe harbor means that you, my partner, can be safe here. It means you, my love, can be uniquely you and expect love, support, appreciation and acceptance for your uniqueness.  It means that I…


Need vs. Needy

One can be alone and not experience “lonely.”  The state of ‘alone’ is a factual event; It can be objectively measured.  Lonely is a feeling; one that is generated from beliefs and expectations.  ‘Lonely’ is an internal state that we generate unrelated to the external state.  We can feel lonely even in the middle of a crowd!…